by Judy Ryan
How keeping it real can be the best way to recharge.
“It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds, who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” - Theodore Roosevelt
As a small-business owner, you understand what it is to be in the arena. To get dirty and sometimes beat up, or simply exhausted, even if it’s work you love and causes you are passionate about being part of. Regardless of your wins or losses, large or small, you know of times when you putter out for a bit and are spent, if not physically, then emotionally and mentally.
I am having just such a moment right now, and I thought I’d write this article to honor and celebrate this experience within myself and with you, as it is part of the makeup of each and every one of our lives and we should be proud of ourselves in these moments as much as for the ones when we shine the brightest – maybe even more so. I find these times often happen when I am entering a new period of expansion and growth. There is the discomfort and the exhilaration of the transformation process and all it entails.
You may wonder, even momentarily like I do at times, whether it’s OK to be both weak and strong, certain and unsure, creative or void of even one good idea, when all that is challenging rises up in you, sometimes seemingly with little or no cause, and you worry there is not enough time or money or skill or something nameless, as you continue to wear multiple hats and do your best to serve with the full range of your gifts and talents.
The thing that works best for me is to keep it real. I commit to paying attention to the ebbs and flows of energy and motivation within me, and even though some moments are more challenging than others, I know the best I can and want to do is remain present to myself without trying to fix or change or heal anything. I remember my best sometimes looks very different, depending on the day.
The key for me is to lean into my feelings no matter what is happening and to be aware of them without becoming overidentified with them – the happy or the bleak. I have learned that is the best gift I can give myself and the quickest way to recharge. I listen closely, so I take action from inspiration and not from fear. I remind myself I am never really alone. Bravo to you for being in the arena – with me. It matters to me that you are there too!
Judy Ryan (judy@LifeworkSystems.com), human systems specialist, is owner of LifeWork Systems. Her mission is to help people create lives and jobs they love. She can be reached at 314-239-4727.
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